Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Ways to stop cutting yourself? A teacher gives student a blade!

If you are seeking ways to stop cutting yourself but are tired of hearing the same old advice which really does not seem to work; you are not alone.  People trying to help who do not understand self harm often become very discouraged when they hear that a loved one or friend has started self harming. There are times when the person harming is seeking ways to stop self harm. You may want to stop cutting yourself but have just not found the solution to the problem. In a very disturbing case a teacher in the United Kingdom (England) provided the blade to a student so she could self harm.



Frustration and very little answers


Trying to get a person to stop self harm can be a very discouraging experience; the person trying to help may become very frustrated or “fed up” to hear that their continual efforts have been unsuccessful; this is possibly what is at the root cause of a teacher’s thinking to provide a blade. This very bizarre and unhelpful choice was widely reported in the news.



At Unsted Park School in England where children between the age of 7 and 16 attend there was a school policy to give the students blades when they felt they needed to self harm as along as it was supervised.  One the school policy was discovered it was quickly abandoned just six days following outraged parents and protests. There is an investigation which will render a decision against the teacher and school very shortly.

The Procedure: Officials told staff to give the student access to sterilized blades and take the child to a bathroom where the student could cut themselves.  The sad fact of the matter is that most cutters are seeking ways to stop cutting themselves; this is not an acceptable solution. The school policy is a cop-out.

The teacher waited outside the bathroom, and then monitored what the student had done. The teacher was taught how to dress and treat the wound after the self harm was complete.


Ways to stop cutting yourself? They had No answers!

The astonishing policy of allowing supervised self harm underscores the fact that most people have no solutions to self harm, why weren’t the students given “The Red Report: Self Harm solution”  to read? The report has been shown to help a person stop self harm in 10 countries by alone; yet we see the same solutions being offered to those who self harm.

The school officials admitted that they thought this was the “best solution”  ‘This was a short-term, local procedure introduced by the head teacher and school principal who genuinely believed it was in the best interests of the pupil”  said a spokesperson for Priory Group which runs the school.   Translated, this means that they had no answers to cutting.  The answer to stop cutting yourself has been revealed to thousands.


The Red Report Self Harm Solution which was started in Denmark was published to read online by cutters, it was designed for those who self harm to have a solution without therapists, doctors or even loved ones. It is downloaded regularly and read in over 10 countries for over the last 5 years.   

Read it now here





Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Can't stop cutting Myself: Why this occurs

I can't stop cutting myself is a common dilemma amongst those who practice this behavior, what many who self harm may not be aware of is that the act of self harm is extremely addictive, like any other addiction it may see that you can take control the behavior but this is not the truth, self harming can become a very vicious cycle of emotional pain. It is a very common phrase “ I can't stop cutting myself” and there is a good reason for this.

Why Self harm is so addictive

All self harming stems from an emotional stress, this is something that has been proven by mental health officials, this emotional stress can coming from school, family, friends or other people who are close to you. The numbers of people suffering from stress has increased dramatically over the past decade according to the department of mental health, emotional stresses cause trouble in the body and the brain. According to researchers at Ohio University constantly thinking on your problems causes stressful inflammation in the body and brain.

I can't stop cutting myself

Those who self harm often live in a continual depressed state of mind, in the study it was found that to ruminate on stressful incidents( or a life of bad experiences) increased levels of C-reactive protein, a marker of tissue inflammation.. The study by Ohio University is the first to directly measure this effect in the body. Reaching for the blade is a solution to the stress and it may work but you will continually need this solution and it often become an addiction, this is similar to those who turn to alcohol for the solution to their stressful situation. When interviewed by researchers in Europe (Scotland)  “I can't stop cutting myself” was a common confession amongst self harmers. Self Harm comes with a price, each cut leaves a deeper emotional scar that you will have to live with, it is a bad solution to an emotional depression or an overwhelming stress.

The Red Report: Stop Self Harming on your own in private..now downloaded in 10 countries

Friday, April 12, 2013

I ruined my life when I slept with...

“I ruined my life” it is a common situation we hear so much today from teen girls who make a mistake and end up nude on a very embarrassing video or cellphone. There has been no less than 3 major news stories in the past 3 months of girls who have slept with multiple guys at a party(the girls was drunk in all cases) and the event ends up on hundreds of cellphone videos. “ I ruined my life”... The latest case is in California where a teen girl just 15 hung herself after being videotaped having sex with multiple guys(she was unconscious and drunk), the boys are being charged with rape.

The rise in Depression

Depression statistics from the department of mental health shows that there are been a very large increase in the numbers of teens who are suffering from clinical depression, the situation is just as gloomy for college students who have seen a rise in their suicide rates over the last 10 years. Many of the young people today are stressed and depressed and often that can lead to alcohol as a form of release, the proliferation of cellphone cameras are causing the bad decision of many girls to be shared with thousands on the internet. The numbers of girls who believe that they have ruined their lives after an encounter with multiple guys are increasing.

Bragging rights for guys

Men have always bragged about their intimate encounters but the proliferation of cellphone cameras have teens taking the bragging rights to a whole new level, these encounters are being shared on cellphone videos by teen boys, many of the girls cannot live down the shame. Jessica Garcia just 15 threw herself in front of a on coming train and died after 4 boys slept with her and videotaped the encounter on their cellphones, the videotaped encounter was shared with hundreds in the school. “ I ruined my life” was what she believed and ended her life violently, she admitted she could not take the shame. “I ruined my life”, teens with cellphone cameras are taking another person's bad decisions and shooting revealing all the details on an atomic level.

The Red Report: Self harm Stop cutting on your own in private now in 10 countries

Cutting yourself, Depressed and Suicidal thoughts

If you are cutting yourself and depressed it is important to know that this can lead to a downward spiral of more serious self harm, the numbers of young people committing suicide is growing. Although most Mental health officials say that a person who cuts is not trying to take their life what is not mentioned is that many cutters do have suicidal thoughts very often. Cutting yourself and feeling depressed does lead to increased suicidal thoughts.

According to the British Medical Journal, deliberate self harm ranges from behaviors with no suicidal intent (but with the intent to communicate distress or relieve tension) through to suicide. Almost 1 in6 adolescents will self harm at some time in their life, and 1 in 2 older adolescents report having had suicidal thoughts at some time. What this shows is that cutting yourself with depressed feelings may be on the “lower end” of the suicide range but many do progress from cutting to suicide. The leap from the blade for cuts to an attempt on the life is not that far, this is extremely troubling.

All cutters are experiencing an inner pain that comes from life situations, others make you cut. We are seeing a growing number of bullying and school stresses leading to self harm. If you are cutting yourself and depressed do not be deceived because self harm and suicidal thoughts are linked, this was revealed by researchers at School of Social and Community Medicine, University of Bristol, they concluded

Compared to those who had never self-harmed, those who had self-harmed but not wanted to die during the most recent episode were at increased risk of ever having had suicidal thoughts and ever making suicidal plans. As the frequency of self-harm increased, so did the risk of suicidal thoughts and plans.

Cutting yourself is not a simple release of tension from stress, it is an act that has a strong link to suicidal thoughts, many who have committed suicide were cutters earlier in life or engaged in other acts of self harm when depressed.

Self harm is a bad solution to an inner problem uses caused by others.

The Red Report:Self Harm  stopper used by Cutters in 10 Countries 

See Here  The Red Report

Thursday, April 4, 2013

I started cutting myself again... When you fail

Can you stop cutting yourself is a good question and the answer lies within the cutter, there are cutters who say they “needed” to do it, it is something that gets them through the pain they are experiencing. Can you stop depends on the situation and where you are in your life, all cutters are not the same, each person is experiencing a different feeling. Can you stop cutting yourself or is it something that will always continue? This is a question we received from a girl who had been cutting for many years, stopped and then relapsed.

The frustration is real

There are many who thought they had conquered self harming only to find that something in life triggers the feeling to cut again, this can be a very disappointing feeling, it is important to realize that if you start hurting yourself again it does not mean that you have failed. The situation is different for each person and depending on what you are going through you may be led to start hurting yourself again. It may seem like you have failed but this is not the case, it simply means that you suffered a set back, do not judge yourself to harshly.

Self harm can be an addiction and like any other addiction we sometimes fall down and go back to doing something that we know inside is not really right, often cutters are very hard on themselves when they start harming again. It is important to understand that this is an addiction that can be triggered, the cutter may not s have seen abetter way to handle what they were going through at the time. Can you stop cutting yourself? Yes, but make the full effort to take control of the problem and realize sometimes we fall down

The Red Report: Self harm Stop cutting on your own in private now in 10 countries

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Depressed, cutting yourself? Take control

Are you depressed and cutting yourself? If this is your situation you are not alone. The numbers of people self harming has increased in the United States and much of Europe over the last 10 years. What is even scarier is the fact the average age of the cutters are getting younger, recent hospital records in England show 10 years being admitted for self harm. If you are depressed and cutting yourself it is a sign that you do need help but getting the right help is important.

The incredible rise in self harm

In Scotland, Europe the numbers of people self harming has skyrocketed, according to the Lib Dem health spokesman Ross Finnie, he was quoted as saying the numbers are “astonishing”

He continued "This was backed up by a more recent report into child and adolescent mental health which warned about the prevalence of self-harm and the lack of systematic support.

"The health secretary needs to act on these figures and address the concerns about mental health services outlined by Audit Scotland” What is telling about his statement is the admission that there is a lack of support for those who are suffering, if you are depressed and cutting yourself there may not be anyone available to help you, this is why it is important to take steps to help yourself

What's in a pill?

The usual treatment for a person who is self harming is to receive anti depressants and this is a good option, it is not the only option and it should not be the last step in your healing. You should go beyond a pill to get to the root causes of your self harm. The emptiness inside will never be filled with a pill if you are depressed and cutting yourself. There is some good news, many people have been helped alone in private by reading the “Red Report” Self harm, it has now been read in over 10 countries by people who self harm, it can take you beyond pills. See here The Red Report Self Harm 

Sunday, March 17, 2013

When Cellphone photos led to self harm and suicide

The case of the Steubenville  High school football players has ended and the boys have been found guilty of rape, the case was busted wide open when photos of the victim was passed around by the players on their cell phones. The pictures showed a teen girl completely knocked out and drunk being dragged around by the boys who all had sex with her. This story brings to mind another young girl who was in a similar situation but did not live to see her tormentors brought to justice.

Felicia Garcia and cellphone pictures

Felicia Garcia was a 15 year old high school student who grew up with no family, her parents were killed at an early age in an accident and she grew up in various foster homes. Felicia, like so many young girls today had no father and very little direction, one day she made the mistake of sleeping with a member of a Staten Island football team, this turned into a very bad situation for her as 4 members of the football team all ended up having intercourse with her all at the same time, as bad as the situation was it became worst.

Cellphones are the new parents

Teens do everything on their phones today, the most intimate details of their lives are shared with friends on their phones, it is a world where adults are not permitted to enter. One of the most disturbing trends among teenagers is the sharing of details by cellphone video, the boys who had sex with Felicia recorded it on their cellphones and shared the footage, soon many of the students were passing around Felicia’s bad decision with the football team. Humiliated, she was taunted continually in school and tried to ignore what happened that horrible night but she confessed to a friend that she could not take it anymore. When Felecia could not take the taunting and the video that lived forever on the boy's cellphones she stood on a train platform and as scores of students waited for the train she jumped in front of an on coming train , she died at the scene.

Sadly in the United States 15 year old boys are heroes if they can kick or catch a ball, many of the Staten Island parents were worried that the boys would be suspended and miss some “important games”.  Many blame the school for protecting the players (One who had a scholarship to play college football) In a fatherless generation many of the young girls are suffering, the role of a loving supportive male is crucial to a young girl's development. The hidden world of teen cellphones has caused bullying to be taken to another level. It is time parents demand to know what is happening on their teen's phone, at 15 teens do not have the intelligence or experience to be unsupervised on these mobile devices, it is time for parent to step up and start parenting. Catching a football does not make a child exceptional, character and behavior does.  

In Memory of Felicia Garcia